People often tell me they get frustrated because they are changing their consciousness, but there are people in their lives they really wish were doing this work in their lives.

That’s the point in the conversation where I usually pat them gently on the shoulder and tell them (with a sweet smile) to mind their own business. Because this is what is so funny… when you start changing your consciousness, when you start minding only your business, the consciousness around you starts changing as well.

I traveled to Canada a few years back to do some speaking engagements. The gentleman who picked me up at the airport found a quarter and penny on the ground as we were heading back to his car. Oddly enough, I walked right over the coins because we were talking.

Then I went shopping with the minister and she bought a cup of coffee. They have this weird thing where you roll up the lip of the cup of coffee to see if you won something. She won a free cup of coffee. Two days later, a group of us were in a meeting and someone bought coffee for everyone. A guy rolls up the lip on his coffee cup and discovers he has won a free donut. The consciousness was rubbing off on everybody.

When you start allowing that increased prosperity to rub off on everyone, instead of seeing someone else as “lacking” in their consciousness, this higher consciousness starts happening all the time.

Simply holding the high watch for another person can instantly transform things for them. Not seeing them as “needing to change.” Simply seeing them as immersed in all the good they desire. Period.

Imagine all the people around you starting to manifest their dreams. Starting to take steps forward toward what they want to create in their lives. Stepping out in faith and truly believing in themselves and forgiving themselves and empowering themselves.

As much as we say we want “those people” around us to change and become more positive, it’s important to really look at (and own) where our egos really don’t want someone else to succeed.

There’s an old saying that we will help someone else “get up” but we won’t help them “get ahead.” We’ll help people when they’re down and out and have “less” than we do. But we hesitate to help people get ahead of us.

If you don’t believe me, pay attention to your initial impulse the next time you’re in a merging traffic situation. It’s virtually second nature for us to want to accelerate so people have to merge in behind us. The same goes for people waiting in line behind us. The amazing thing is how quickly holding the high watch for another, without wanting anything in return, can reap results for the people around you.

After I spent two days with this group in Canada, one woman in the group went out to have dinner with a friend. Sitting at dinner, her friend looked at her and said “there is something different about you.”

The woman felt this lifting… the “something different” that her friend had recognized. She began to realize that everything in her life truly was happening for the highest good. It was all great, in fact. She stopped judging the events in her life and as a result, things in her life seemed to effortlessly flow!

This doesn’t mean things happen exactly the way you wanted them to happen. It means you begin to let go of your attachment to what you think is the best thing that can happen. You begin to “always make room for the unexpected in yourself,” as Steve Martin would say. You begin to allow the mystery of life to take root and flourish.

Rather than seeing life as a scary journey that you have to control and protect yourself from at every turn, you begin to see life as an adventure – a wild ride that you’re allowing yourself to be breathlessly carried away on so that when you reach the next point of stillness your cheeks are flushed and your hair is all flyaway and the only words that come to your lips are “Wow! THAT was AWESOME!”