Healing Your Relationship With Money

Commitment Seven: I am committed to having a good time in my relationship with money.

Playing on Life’s Abundant Playground

This is the seventh and final commitment to healing our relationship with money. We make the commitment to having a good time in our relationship with money. A good first step is learning to recognize the joy and the gifts that come from honoring the other five commitments to healing your relationship with money. One subscriber recently shared with me her recognition of these gifts. Committing to the awareness that she is 100% the source of her current financial situation — as scary as that is to her — has resulted in her showing up more for things that are financially related, like getting her expired drivers license renewed.

In the past few weeks, she’s noticed that every time she shows up and takes steps to rectify situations she’s avoided in the past, the Universe rewards her by reducing the amounts of money she would have owed, or by removing obstacles that in the past had been financially and emotionally draining. Simply by having the WILLINGNESS to accept responsibility, she has created a healing energy force that is effortlessly healing her relationship with money. She is creating momentum and enjoying the ride.

So, how can you build momentum in your prosperity consciousness? How can you learn to “go with the flow?”

Think of the last time you pushed a child (or an adult!) on a swing. When do you push the person on the swing? Do you connect with them and push as they’re coming back toward you? Or do you wait until they’ve reached you and are just at the turning point, just at the moment when they’re about to begin going forward again?

You wait. You bide your time. And then you join in the forward momentum, without fear, without hesitation. Too often in life, we wait too long to take action on something. We hesitate out of fear of being wrong, of choosing a wrong path for ourselves. We hesitate out of fear of the unknown. Or we hesitate because we haven’t clearly defined what we want.

When pushing a swing, we are present in the moment. We are committed to having a good time and what we want is clear. We want to be part of something that is going higher and higher, part of something that is giving ourselves and someone else joy, part of something that is breaking free from the limitations of gravity here on earth.

In the rest of our lives, what we want isn’t usually as clear. For example, we may have picked a career path because it was something we knew others dreamed of for us, or it was a way out of circumstances we wished to escape, or because our parents had the same career, or because we were avoiding having the same career as our parents, or because we thought it would bring in the right among of income to support ourselves and our loved ones.

We deny our hearts longing because we feel that following our heart’s path will leave us wanting. Such was the case for a woman I had a wonderful coaching session with this week. In her heart, she is an artist and the Universe has dumped wonderful opportunities in her lap to follow her art, but she has been afraid to follow-up on them. She has been listening to the age-old voices within her that tell her she’s not good enough and that she can’t make enough money to support herself with her art.

By affirming that what she has to offer is not enough, and by affirming that what is being offered to her isn’t enough, she’s missing out on the opportunity to fulfill that longing. By stepping out in faith, by following through and staying the course, by stepping up and embracing the potential in the opportunities that have been presented to her, she’s now embarking on a new journey — a journey toward fulfilling her lifelong goal of supporting herself with her art. And she is not alone.

I’ve recently run into two engineers — singer/songwriters Steve Ducey and Andrew McKnight — who are pursuing their lifelong dreams of being musicians. And I myself have returned to a childhood calling and will be pursuing my ministerial degree in the fall at The New Seminary in New York. I see my ordination as a natural extension of the ministry I do, by helping people heal their relationships with money. But it took me a long time to let go of the fear that this was a valid calling. Others, like Sandra Mizell have taken steps to pursue dreams to help women who have been battered and abused reclaim their self-esteem and their rightful place as strong, vibrant women. One by one, we’re all stepping out in faith.

How will YOU know when it’s time to step out in faith? When you begin to remember that everything is in divine order. When you’re willing to feel the fear and do it anyway, you will be ready to commit to having a good time in your life — no matter what the results may be.

Making the commitment to having a good time with our money, and in our lives in general, means letting go of our expectations of the outcome. Yes, we may desire a certain outcome — but if we affirm that this outcome OR SOMETHING BETTER is in store for us, then we can step out in faith. A mile is walked one step at a time. A swing soars higher, one push at a time. All journeys begin this way.

How do we learn to put one foot in front of the other? How do we learn to push a swing at just the right time? Trial and error. Not every attempt is perfect. It’s progress we’re seeking, not perfection. Ask anyone who’s jammed a finger pushing too soon, or felt their fingertips barely brush the back of the person on the swing because they’ve pushed too late. Ask any toddler who’s taking those first tentative steps. It’s all trial and error.

But what keeps us trying? What keeps us moving forward and waiting for the next opportunity to take those steps or to push the swing again? Hope. Hope and a commitment to having a good time playing on the playground. Life is your own personal playground. And each swing represents a different relationship in your life, money being one of these relationships. For the next two weeks, I encourage you to commit to having a good time in your relationship to money. Start now with these four small steps:

1: Bless your bills every time you pay them. You will soon discover that there is great joy in giving thanks for what your bills represent — and you will soon stop dreading the arrival of your mail.

2: Incorporate simple affirmations into your day, like “THERE’S GOLD DUST IN THE AIR” (a good affirmation as springtime pollen flies everywhere!) or “EVERY DAY, IN EVERY WAY, MY INCOME GROWS AND GROWS AND GROWS, THANK YOU, GOD!” or “GOD IS THE SOURCE OF MY SUPPLY” or “I LET GO AND TRUST.

3: Make a daily game out of tithing. Actively seek out people who feed your spirit and tithe to them. Look for the times you smile or chuckle to yourself over something that you see, read or hear and immediately ask yourself: who can I thank for this gift? Give of your time, give of your talents, give of your possessions, give freely, willingly and joyfully.

4: Reframe how you’re approaching your relationship to money. Rather than view a budget as a restricting tool, for example, view it the way a beachcomber views a metal detector. A budget is a tool that helps you get untold and unexpected rewards. Yes, a beachcomber could find gold doubloons simply by walking around all day, waiting for a teak treasure chest to wash ashore, or stopping and sifting through handfuls of sand. But a metal detector makes finding the buried treasures much more likely. With a budget, you expand your possibilities and create the opportunity for limitless abundance to appear in your life. Simply write down where your money comes from and where it goes for the next two weeks and see what patterns emerge.

Before you know it, these baby steps will turn into giant strides, until you find yourself skipping for joy at all the abundance that has appeared, effortlessly, in all areas of your life. This does not mean that you won’t have missteps, jammed fingers and missed opportunities as you deal with money issues. But I guarantee that you will keep moving forward if you have hope and keep this commitment to having a good time playing on the playground of life.


Paula Langguth Ryan is a contemporary prosperity advisor, author and motivational speaker. She is devoted to helping people release their limiting beliefs — so they may achieve personal prosperity and abundance in all areas of their lives. If this booklet fed your soul, tithes and offerings are gratefully accepted to support the continuation of this work: Paula Langguth Ryan, 1121 Annapolis Road, Suite 120, Odenton, MD 21113.