Frequently Asked Questions About Tithing
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Is There a Wrong Way toTithe?
Doesn’t a Tithe Have to Be 10%?
Who Should We Tithe To?
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Q. IsThere a Wrong Way to Tithe? I got half way through your tithing book and became so excited and inspired I cannot even express it to you! I immediately began tithing 10%, believing in the principle that supports this very strongly. I must tell you though, that at this point in time, after tithing 10% of every bit of income I have had since I began the book, I am now in the negative in my checking account and the two tithing checks haven’t even been presented to my bank yet. I am praying to see abundance around me, and I am doing wrong?
A. Thank you for your kind words about my work. There’s no “wrong” way to tithe. There are, however, some internal checks you should make to be sure you’re actually tithing, and not just giving 10% of your money away. First, let’s look at why you decided to start tithing. What motivated you to tithe? Are you tithing out of gratitude to places to that feed your spirit? Are you tithing to get something in return? Are you tithing to places that “need” instead of places that resonate with you? Check in with those basics.
When you receive income, is your tithe the first check you write, out of gratitude for what you’ve received, or is it the last check you write? Giving thanks with the very first outflow is tithing at its best. Next, what have you received since you started tithing?
Think outside the box, not just what you’ve received in cold hard cash, but what gifts have others given to you or attempted to give to you? Often times, people who experience what you are experiencing discover that they have opened up incredible channels of good, and that they have actually been “turning down” their good, by not accepting the gifts that are offered.
Are you open to receiving and saying thank you when people attempt to give things to you, or do you see them as giving to you out of a sense of obligation, giving “too much” or to feed your need, or because they are offering charity to you?
See everything that is offered to you as a gift. Write it down. Start keeping track of the good that flows into your life, in whatever form it takes – a missed accident; an easy-going exchange with someone you’ve previously had conflict with. (It’s actually a sign of abundance that the two tithing checks you sent out haven’t been presented to your bank.)
Next, look to see if you’re being a good steward with what you have. When you saw that your checking account balance was low, you made a choice to spend more than was in there, or you made a choice to stay vague about how much you had, or how much would automatically be coming out of your account. Don’t judge these choices, just acknowledge them and decide if you want to continue making those choices or not. Call the people you tithed to and ask them to hold the checks for you until you call them back and tell them otherwise.
Each day, look to see where you can step up into a higher level of integrity with your finances. I strongly recommend getting a copy of my free e-booklet, Heal Your Relationship With Money, to see where your money beliefs might be getting in the way of your good.
Q. Doesn’t a Tithe Have to Be 10% I thought a tithe meant “a tenth” – people aren’t really tithing if they’re giving less than that, are they?
A. I encourage you not to plant the seed in yourself or anyone else that a 1%, 2%, 5% or 8% tithe isn’t a tithe. While the root of the world “tithe” is “tenth”, the word actually means the the first part, or a portion and is about the consciousness behind the giving, not the amount or percentage that is given.
Psychologically, we set ourselves and others up for failure when we disdain or denigrate or devalue what is given. When we affirm that a 1% tithe isn’t a tithe, that is exactly what we’re doing.
While it may be a matter of semantics to some and a matter of perception to others, the goal of the Giving Thanks Tithing Mastery Program is to create the reality that people are tithing from right consciousness rather than tithing from the appearance that 1% isn’t a tithe.
By affirming that the amount given isn’t REALLY tithing unless it is 10%, you sabotage the intention behind the effort before it gets rolling! When you create the reality that a tithe is made from right consciousness, you set yourself and others up for SUCCESS.
If you’d like to learn how to overcome the fears and any struggle around tithing a full 10%, I highly recommend the 10 week graduated tithing class, Giving Thanks Tithing Mastery Class.
The class and the study guide for it are free, although I do suggest you get a copy of Giving Thanks: The Art of Tithing if you don’t already have one, since the study guide follows the book.
You can download a free copy of the study guide by clicking Giving Thanks Tithing Mastery Program. Then go to Tithing Mastery Course page and listen to the free 10 week study course. Take the course over the full 10 weeks so you give yourself time to do the homework and “work up” to tithing a full 10%.
If you can, find others who are willing to commit to doing the class too, so you have people who are willing to come together and let their energy feed each other.
Q. Who Should We Tithe To? How can we give our tithe to anyone we want? The Bible says: Bring ye all the tithe to the storehouse, so there will be meat in my house, and prove methat I will open the windows of heaven and pour you out a blessing that there will not be room to receive it. Malachi 3:10. Also Malachi 3:8-9 Will a man rob God? Yet ye have robbed me. But ye say, Wherein have we robbed thee? In tithes and offerings. Ye are cursed with a curse: for ye have robbed me, even this whole nation.
A. Thank you for your letter regarding tithing. As you noted in the Bible, it says that we should bring our tithe to God’s storehouse. The storehouse was the place where the Levites, those who had been called by God to do God’s work, gathered together tithes of money and goods to distribute out again to others.
I’m not recommending that people give their tithe to “anyone they want,” by any means. I’m encouraging people to give their tithes to God’s storehouse: places that feed their spirit, places that inspire, uplift and enlighten them, as the Levites fed the spirits (physically and emotionally) of those they ministered to.
Too often, people give their tithes out of a sense of obligation, rather than out of a true understanding of tithing: giving thanks for what they have been given. Wherever you are spiritual fed is where you should give your tithe. This is God’s storehouse for your life. Hopefully this is your local church or temple, for local spiritual organizations then pass along their tithes to local causes and provide much-needed community support.
Some people give their tithe only when they go to church, and the weeks they don’t go to church they don’t tithe. This is how we rob God. And then they wonder why they are not experiencing greater abundance in their lives!
Other people are afraid to tithe to people, thinking that it will be viewed as payment for services rendered, as opposed to an offering of thanksgiving. God wanted us to make a point of giving back 10% of what we have been given, freely and willingly and cheerfully, as thanks for the blessings we’d received. God is omnipresent: present everywhere, in everything. By tithing to where you are spiritually fed, whether that inspiration comes at church or somewhere else, you bless and thank God.
We are all ministers of one sort or another. We are all called to be of service and how we answer that call is up to each of us individually. God’s storehouse is the multitude of servants who are called to do his work. There are many people who will undoubtedly tithe to you (whatever name they give it) of their time, talents and treasures for you feeding their spirit in some way. We all do this. I just recommend doing it consciously so that we acknowledge God in all our tithes, whether we are receiving them or giving them.
My income comes from God. One of the channels of good that God uses to bring income to me is through the tithes and offerings of people who have been fed spiritually by the work that I do. And every day, I give thanks and tithe back to where I’ve been spiritually fed. It might be a church where I’ve just spoken, it might be my home church, it might be to a musician, it might be to a speaker, it might be to someone who just lightened my burden for me in a way that they never even knew.
Wherever you are spiritually fed, tithe there. Whatever you consider to be your storehouse, tithe there. Tithe there gratefully, with an outpouring of joy and thanksgiving and your tithe will be received and multiplied by God’s goodness. This is the blessing that God has promised to pour out upon you — to overflowing!
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Hello. Thank you so much for your insight into tithing, this is very appreciated. I have a question. I notice that you stated, “Some people give their tithe only when they go to church, and the weeks they don’t go to church they don’t tithe. This is how we rob God. And then they wonder why they are not experiencing greater abundance in their lives!” I’m unclear on this. If I work and receive my paycheck bi-weekly and pay my tithing from my check bi-weekly, how exactly am I robbing God. I haven’t received anything monetary. I give tithing that way, right. I give to others (to those in some sort of need as often as I can – if I pass someone on the street asking for something, I give. A family member that may need, I give. Anyone in need, I give as I can). Is that what you’re referring to as robbing God?
I just don’t understand. If you tell me to purchase your book to find out, then I’ll do so
Thank you so much.
Hi Leslie! Actually, you can download a copy of Giving Thanks for free on the Free Gifts page of my website!
I think I can clear up the confusion though without you having to read the book…. regarding the statement about withholding from God… if you were to get your paycheck bi-weekly and only go to church on the weeks you DIDN’T receive a check… and tried to convince yourself that you were tithing.. even if you didn’t give anywhere else on the other weeks, that would be an example of how our egos sometimes try and convince us that we’re not withholding.. does that help? As for giving to others in need.. for THAT I would recommend reading the book… when we give to need, we’re feeding need. A tithe is an act of gratitude, given to people and places that feed our spirit – not because they “need” anything (because that gets our ego caught up in the trap of “they don’t “need” my tithe.. so I’ll give elsewhere…” instead of giving thanks for the spiritual food we’ve received from different people and places). I’ve tithed to people on the street and friends and family – not with any weight given to whether or not “I” think they “need” it – but from a place of pure joy and gratitude for someplace that week where they have fed my spirit. Does that help? Thanks so much for asking the question! I love being able to correspond with folks!
For someone like me who belong to two churches, the one at home and the one that am nw attending because i have found a job far from wr i come from, so in this case were am i suppose to tithe?
Hi Mulaudzi,
Great question and not an uncommon one at all! Tithing is about gratitude; about giving thanks to God for all that you’ve been given, all that you have received. So if you’re being spiritually fed at the church you’re attending, tithe there. If people back home are holding you in prayer, or feeding your spirit in other ways, then tithe there. And if both are occurring and you’re finding spiritual nourishment from both, then share your tithe between the two as you are guided. Give from your heart with gratitude. Let Spirit guide you and then follow that guidance.
Richest blessings,
Paula
I want to know where God authorised you to change HIS Law.
God Says tithes apply to Israel ONLY Lev 27:1&34
God says tithes are FOOD …ie produce of the land and animals only Lev 27:30&32
God says tithes are for Levites only under a covenant Num 18:21-24
God says tithes are to be EATEN by the giver (Deut 14:22-27)
God says POOR are to share in the tithes….NOT give it (Deut 14:28-29
Jesus says that anyone who changes ‘one jot or tittle of the Law will be least in the kingdom of Heaven…..you have done FAR WORSE!
You are called to repent of this deception…and disclose to people that you are a recipient of the funds you teach falsely about…and not God.
“When an honestly mistaken person is confronted with the truth, they must either cease being mistaken, or stop being honest”
Thanks for your thoughtful email, Chris. Jesus actually taught tithing in an enormous way – he taught tithing from the Spirit of the Law, rather than the Letter of the Law. And he taught tithing as a method of putting God first in ALL things, not just financially. Here’s an excerpt from Giving Thanks: The Art of Tithing where I talk about the different ways Jesus tithed:
What Exactly Is a Tithe?
Honor the Lord with thy substance, and with the first fruits of all thine increase. — The Bible, Book of Proverbs (3:9)
Tithing is about saying “thank you,” which always begins with putting some gratitude in our attitude. Giving thanks is about tithing not only with our money, but also with our thoughts, words, actions, time, efforts and possessions.
Tithe from your thoughts: Give thanks to everyone who comes into your life for the role they play in your life, whether it was a role you welcomed or not.
Tithe from your words: Speak words of love, gratitude and thanksgiving rather than criticism, condemnation and sarcasm.
Tithe from your actions: Act with integrity, honesty and courage rather than fear.
Tithe from your time: Volunteer; go out of your way to stop and help someone in need; truly listen when a child is speaking.
Tithe from your efforts: Approach everything you do with gratitude and joy, even if it’s not what you truly desire to be doing at that moment.
Tithe from your possessions: Give some of what you own to others, without expecting anything in return.
Tithing actually predates the Bible. I encourage you to download the free e-book version of Giving Thanks and read it and let me know your thoughts. All the good that I have comes from God. Not from what anyone tithes to me or shares with me. God is the Source of my Supply in all ways – this is what I learned from Jesus. And all that I have is God’s to use. We have different interpretations of the Bible. And that’s okay. I encourage people to tithe wherever they are spiritually fed – wherever God moves them to tithe. Whether or not anyone gives to me is immaterial. God gives to me. And I am grateful. I am blessed. And I share those blessings as I in turn tithe to where God feeds my spirit. I go with the teaching of Jesus that says “judge not, lest ye be judged.”
Have a blessed day, Chris.
Peace and prosperity,
Paula
I have a question. I have been a faithful tither for about 20 years. I am in the process of leaving the church I attend because I find out there are some inappropriate things going on. I have not found a new church yet and I am still attending the old one until I make a complete transition which I am doing through prayer. I really want to pay my tithes but I do not know where to pay them. Can you give me some direction? Thanks.
Hi Marie,
If you’re attending your current church still, then I’m assuming you’re still getting some spiritual food from being there. If so, then tithe there. Withholding tithes because we don’t “approve” of something that’s going on, while we continue to attend, usually means that our ego has gotten involved. Take a look at the “inappropriate” conduct that you say is going on there and ask yourself why you find it “inappropriate.” What about it offends you? Then ask yourself, if you were practicing forgiveness, could you see the truth about the people there and the actions as being a cry for love, or an action guided by fear? We often run away from situations that would cause us to challenge our beliefs or heal something within us that needs to be healed. Be mindful that you’re not withholding your tithe because you are avoiding that healing opportunity. Tithe where you are spiritually fed. If you’re spiritually fed by a specific part of the service you attend, then tithe there – to the minister, or musician or whatever specifically feeds your spirit
Hope that helps!
Peace and prosperity,
Paula
What if you don’t attend a Church or a Spiritual group of any kind? My “storehouse” is simply my family and friends. What are some examples of other places to give tithe? Someone suggested that I give it directly to people who are in need, but I had always thought giving to charity was supposed to be separate from tithing. I also know someone who sends their tithe to Voice of the Martyrs and suggested I could do the same. Any suggestions would be great, thanks!
Hi Shelby…my dad used to have a saying “I’m heading out to the church of the garden.” Which meant he was heading out to the yard to commune with nature. We all have a place that is our “church” regardless of what spiritual path we are on. And most of them don’t look like any congregation that would be “called” a religious or spiritual group of any sort. Sounds like you’re in that category. I’m assuming you do some spiritual reading, (since you found my work!) – any place where you’re “spiritually fed” is where I encourage people to tithe. Who feeds your spirit? Who reminds you of your magnificence, triggers those “aha” moments, helps you grow into your more authentic self, holds the high watch for you or moves you closer toward remembering your oneness with all that is? Those are the people and places that feed your spirit. Give there, simply because you are giving thanks for what you’ve received. Not because there’s a need or charity involved (although there may be, pay attention to which part of is is tempted to give in order to feed the need and which part is giving from a place of gratitude.
I’ve tithed to homeless people, when that overwhelming gratitude of my blessings cropped up. I’ve tithed to waitresses, housekeeping staff, musicians, authors, speakers, strangers on the street whose act of kindness reminded me of the goodness in the world and in me, and so many other places that aren’t “traditional” spiritual channels. Pay attention to what feeds your spirit and give as you’re guided.
As for giving to charity, you’re right, that’s a completely separate entity. Although I have at times given my tithe to a charitable organization, it was out of the same sense of gratitude and not to feed a need they were having. For that, I give separately, as donations. Hope that helps! And thanks for a great question!
Peace and prosperity,
Paula
PS For some really great reading on tithing, check out the book excerpts at http://www.catherineponderbooks.com – the affirmation section is awesome!
Hello Paula,
Thanks for all your updates. I find them very helpful.
I want to write a letter to our church members (especially the officers) encouring them to tithe without them feeling I am putting undue pressure on them. I strongly believe in tithing but with the vast of negative press on the internet its becoming a big challenge.
Members don’t want to commit to tithing or giving but expect the church to be open for them and now they are challenging God’s word to suit themselves.
How may I put this is the best way possible (saturated with prayer as well)
David
Hi David – the best way to encourage church members and officers of the church to tithe is to teach them the power of tithing in their lives WITHOUT requiring them to give to the church. I once knew a church in North Carolina where the minister did a tithing class that had ONE requirement: NO ONE in the class was ALLOWED to tithe to the church for the entire duration of the class (10 weeks!). He wanted to demonstrate to them what he knew already: our good comes from God, not from what someone gives or doesn’t give in the offering basket. By making it known clearly that tithes from people in the class would not be going to the church, but would be going to places in the community that fed the students’ spirits, they opened up to the truth about tithing.
I HIGHLY encourage to to create a class and have everyone download the free copy of Giving Thanks: The Art of Tithing AND the Giving Thanks Tithing Mastery study guide. This link will take you to both free publications: GIVING THANKS. Then host a 10 week course with the above requirement (Or encourage everyone to sign up for the 10 week teleclass that starts in April of 2013!
Tithing is about expressing our gratitude for EVERYTHING God has already given us, and affirming our faith and knowledge in the truth that God has already provided for us all that we desire. What happens, of course, as the consciousness grows, is that church members and officers begin tithing to where they are spiritually fed – and your church is one of those places – as a result, God will pour out additional blessings you haven’t even begun to fathom.
May you ALWAYS know that you are Abundant, One with God and All That Is, and open and receptive to receiving and giving all that flows to, in and through you, with gratitude and love.
Peace and prosperity,
Rev. Paula Langguth Ryan
Do we give 10% of gross or net from our paychecks?
Hi Elwood Bruce… The answer is “it depends!” The goal is to tithe on ALL that you receive. AND for some people tithing immediately on EVERYTHING you receive is to scary to jump into right away. If you’re tithing a full 10%, and the fear is coming up, then first start by tithing 10% of net what you receive. And tithe 10% on any tax refunds you might receive, for example – anything that might be coming out of your gross. As you get more comfortable with tithing, move on up to tithing from the gross.
A second strategy for getting to the same place is to start by tithing 1% of your GROSS this month. Then next month, increase it to 2% and then 3% and so on. The Giving Thanks Tithing Mastery Class is a great way to move it on up – you can do it weekly, or monthly (as some churches teach it!) so that each month you gradually increase your tithe amount so effortlessly find yourself giving 10% of your gross at the end of 10 months!
Peace and prosperity,
Paula
Where have we gone wrong? My wife and I are spirit filled believers. For the last 10 years I have tithed over 100k of my income. We also gave money to all kinds of people in need. We live well within our means – we don’t take vacations, eat out, or buy things we don’t need. We always buy used cars etc. I play in a music ministry band on the side and seldom receive love offerings from churches or anywhere else we play – everyone raves about our band but it actually costs me money to do this ministry. My wife has a volunteer spirit and has run the wheels off our cars doing everything that comes up at the church. We pray every time we give and thank God for our blessings and ask that he prospers us. I am an Engineer and my wife works very hard cleaning houses. I still have 2 boys at home to support. Now here is the rub.
Im am 57 and on my second lay-off in the last 14 months. I was laid off last year for 4 months and got a job with a 25% pay cut. We kept tithing all the while! Now they laid off the whole team I was working with and here I am again 3 months without work and my wife and I are suffering greatly. Im an excellent college educated worker – my co-workers rave about my work, but here I sit applying for job after job and no responses. Perhaps its age discrimination but I thought God could do anything. I don’t have much in my retirement as I said before we gave and tithed away a lot of our money. So when I hear people say you can’t outgive God or tithing works – I don’t know what to believe anymore! I am becoming bitter over this and I keep repenting for it. I started tithing because my wife said God told her to do it. However, I had always felt the holy spirit telling me to give to this and to that. I tithed out of obedience to the word. God said Test me on this and I did and here I sit in despair…
Dear Alan – first, take a deep breath. Second, I encourage you and your wife to sit down and look at what you give in your time and energy and resources. Start with the time and energy. Are there places where you are being of service where you don’t truly wish to be of service. Not because you’re not “getting back” from them – but because they truly simply aren’t yours to do. Then look at your financial resources that you’re giving – are you “overgiving” – so many people overgive instead of giving 10% – pay attention to that. Third, look at where you are giving to people in “need.” When we feed need, as opposed to giving to God as a Thank You for everything we’ve received, we get stuck in a trap of giving to get – we think that we “need” and since we are feeding someone else’s need we often (even subconsciously) hope and expect and pray that someone somewhere will “feed our need as well.”
Next, look at where you resent things that are going on in your life. I know, when the going gets tough, that it’s easy to think that you’re being shortchanged, or discriminated against. When the truth is, You were laid off for only 4 months, and then got a new job. Instead of looking at “this is my second layoff in 14 months AND I was only getting 75% of what I used to get” – do you see the difference in the feeling? I know people who were laid off for 2 years, who weren’t tithers. So did tithing help you get a new job? Maybe yes, maybe no. We look at the form that we think something is supposed to take and it often builds up resentments. Go through every area of your life and start making gratitude lists. What did that 4 months give you that you didn’t have? Time off to do what? What gifts came from being laid off from those two jobs? There are always gifts. God is always in motion, bringing us our highest good.
Next, examine where you may be turning down or repelling your good because it’s not taking the form you’d like it to take, or because someone is trying to give something to you – our pride can often get in the way of our greater good that God is trying to get to us. Be mindful!
Finally, get free copies of both Heal Your Relationship With Money E-book and Workbook AND Giving Thanks: The Art of Tithing (and the study guide!) – have both you and your wife read ‘em, fill ‘em out, then talk through the questions in the workbook and the questions and exercises in the Giving Thanks book and study guide. Then write and tell me what’s different in your world!
Peace and prosperity,
Paula
I am in a bit of a spritual dilemma and after searching the web, I found your site. I hope you can help. I attend a church, and have attended for awhile, but lately I feel that maybe the money isn’t being spent to totally help the church. the church itself is a huge building on a huge property, but with the exception of a few ministries, I don’t see many outreaches. The church hosts a lot of revivals with “big name” speakers, and I just can’t even attend these anymore because it seems every 5 minutes, these speakers are asking for love offerings. My church’s pastor is associated with many big name pastors, some of whom have been investigated by the IRS for having private jets, etc. I feel like I shouldn’t have these thoughts, but I just wonder where my tithe is going exactly…if I suspect it is going into huge pastor salaries and the like…then would it be OK to spread my tithe around? I get my spiritual food from other ministries as well, so it is not just this particular church (i attend because my husband and his family grew up there). what do you think? If I am not giving joyfully to this particular church…shouldn’t I find a ministry that spiritually feeds me so that I can joyfully tithe? I would also ask you to help me get rid of these negative thoughts. Thank you and I look forward to your response.
Hi Kristin – you pretty much answered your own question, didn’t you? Our tithes are an expression of gratitude and thanksgiving for what we’ve received from God. When we start finding ourselves questioning or judging what the people we tithe to are doing with their tithes, it’s time to start looking at where you ARE truly being spiritually fed. It’s ALSO time to start looking at where you want to change or heal your relationship with money.
There will always be people who have more or less than either of us do at any given time. What happens when we’re not comfortable with money or don’t have a healthy relationship with money issues, is this: we think that people who have less than us somehow are doing something wrong or are to be pitied and “helped” and we think people who have more than us somehow are doing something wrong and are to be held accountable for how they choose to spend their money.
Both of these thoughts are deeper reflections of how WE feel – if I feel like I have “less than” – I judge myself. If I feel like I have “more than” then I wonder if other people are judging me, and so on. Is that helpful for getting rid of the negative thoughts? Start with the Heal Your Relationship With Money e-book and workbook and get a clear grip on what you’re seeing in how you relate to money issues.
And if you can’t release the resentments once you’ve healed your relationship with money, then it may very well be time to tithe to where you ARE truly being spiritually fed. Remember – what anyone else does with what you give them (which is now theirs) is none of your business.
Peace and prosperity,
Paula
How is the family affected if a married couple both believes in tithing & Offering. However, one tithes from a check that is received through part time employment, and the other gives an offering from employment check., which is the main source of income in the household. As a married couple, we are now as one, so how will the family be affected according to the word of God.
Hi Lashelle – correct me if I’m wrong, but I get a sense of “guilt” from your question, as in “will God punish us somehow for not giving a full tithe”. It’s important to look at what YOU do with YOUR money and allow the other partner in the couple to give as he/she is guided. Being able to have a conversation around what is behind the choice is sometimes helpful (and clear communication in a marriage is ALWAYS a good thing). For example, the person who gets the main check may have fears around whether or not there will be “enough” left over to pay the bills, save, etc. It’s important to examine WHY they are choosing not to tithe a full 10% – and then work up a strategy for working up to that.
Give YOUR tithe with gratitude and allow your partner to give as he/she is guided. The way we are affected is that we sometimes will miss opportunities that come to us, because we won’t be in the flow – we won’t see the good that appears because we won’t recognize the form it is taking.
Use the Giving Thanks: The Art of Tithing book and study guide (both free!) to examine and heal the fears and beliefs about tithing that may be getting in the way. And release your partner, knowing that they are giving as they are guided.
As an alternative, of course, you can always give the full 10% tithe from the household from YOUR check! Then the full tithe is paid from the household – remember: God is the source of all our good. And God uses many, many channels to bring that good to us. Nothing says that you can’t tithe from “the household income” using money that’s come in from one channel!
Peace and prosperity,
Paula
Dear Paula,
Thank you for this guidance. I know the bible says I should give out love out my hearts goodness and not expect anything in return. However the Lord does attach promises to the act of giving.The Lord also states that we should test him ( Mal 3) to see how He will give back to us. I don’t seem to recall such a bible verse but often Christians encourage one another to count their blessings. Therefore, my question is:.
1. How do I give my tithe in secret and yet ensure that it is appropriately used?
2. What level of confidentiality is acceptable so I do not get an earthly reward … As Jesus put it, instead of the heavenly one.
3. I have two questions out of this. Does God differentiate His give back ‘ pressed down, shaken together and running over (Luke 6:38) with regard to the tithes or offerings?
4. Secondly, would it be wise to keep ledger for all tithes and offerings given as well as blessings received?
Thanks
Andrew
Awesome questions, Andrew. First and foremost, give your tithe anonymously, anywhere you are guided AND release your attachment to what anyone does with the money they receive. A tithe is a token of gratitude to God, given to wherever you are spiritually fed (spiritual servants of God). Once you have given it to them, it is theirs to do whatever they desire. When we judge what someone else is doing, we are acting as if WE know best what is there’s to do with it.
I encountered this often when people wanted to tithe to the missionaries in Kenya we work with – the donors would want to give for a specific cause, when what the recipient really needed was a way to pay their rent that month, or put food on the table, or fix the car, or buy medicine. By bridging the gap between donor and recipient with clear communication, donors were able to release their attachment to “how” their donation was used and recipients were able to use the funds as they were being guided to use them.
The reward of tithing precedes the tithe we give. Remember – our tithe is a thank you for what we’ve already received. Simply give – with no expectation of anything in return. Some people have interpreted scripture to mean that when you give there’s this grand reward “later” rather than now. God wants you to be rich. By that, what is meant is that God wants you to KNOW with every fiber of your being that the entire universe, Heaven and Earth belongs to you. It is yours. You are abundantly and richly clothed and fed and housed EXACTLY as you are now. Whether you live in a mansion, rent a tiny apartment or live under a viaduct, you are abundantly and richly rewarded The reward is a change in consciousness – a revelation and awareness that there is nothing you lack, despite any appearances to the contrary.
God doesn’t differentiate between what you give and what you don’t give – but we tend to. Tithing is about creating a systematic gratitude machine, where you are constantly saying thank you for everything you receive in every area of your life – whether it’s financial, love, health, peace of mind, knowledge, joy, etc.
And finally, (as you’ll see in the Giving Thanks Tithing Mastery Study Guide) I strongly recommend writing down all that you receive – because that helps you see all that is yours to tithe on. Most people do it backward – they give, record the tithes and offerings and then look at what they received to see if they “received” enough, or a balanced amount. I encourage you to do the reverse so you can tap into the true nature of tithing. Write down all that you receive. And give a tenth of that back. As you’ll see from the study guide, keeping a ledger for all that you receive includes categories like: Money, Creative/Inspired Ideas, Gifts, Wisdom/Guidance, Improved Relationships, Increased Health, Customers/Clients/Contracts/Work Events, Opportunities/Savings/Deals/Reduced Expenses, Freedom, Peace of Mind, Protection From Harm and Kindness From Others… start that ledger and you will be amazed at how wealthy you truly are right here and right now!
Peace and prosperity,
Paula
Should a married couple (both earning) tithe as one or separately according to their income?
Hi Jazz… Let’s set aside the word “should” for a minute, shall we? How a couple decides to tithe depends on them, and how they choose to handle their income. Some couples prefer to each tithe on what each of them brings in, to places that feed them spiritually on an individual basis. Others decide where to tithe together, and pool their money and tithe to where they are both spiritually fed on any given week. Others do something fun and tithe separately on a specific amount (sometimes using the lower paid salary as a guideline for instance) and then together tithe on the “overage” or larger amount.
The challenge that comes up for some couples is when one party isn’t supportive of WHERE the other party wants to tithe. If an issue is coming up around sending money to a specific person or place that has fed you spiritually, then it’s better to tithe individually rather than get into an argument or have resentment about where a tithe goes. I then invite the party who has the issue around where a tithe is spent to look at WHY they have an issue about it. What core belief button is being pushed that has triggered a NO reaction around the money and how it’s being spent. If the tither wants to give money to feed a need, and the issue that’s coming up is around that, then I invite the tither to look at why they want to feed a need (whatever we feed grows!) rather than feeding God’s spiritual workers. (Better to give the needy a copy of a tithing book and teach them to tithe than to tithe to them and teach them to need!) Remember: it’s all God’s so wherever we give thanks to God for spiritual food is a good place. Hope that helps!