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The other day, a client shared that she was feeling a sense of overwhelm. There was so much to do and she was beating herself up every time she took any time off to rest and rejuvenate. Do you have guilt around what is or isn’t getting done in your life? Whenever I get to the point where I feel like I’ve got too much to do and not enough time to do it in I stop and consider the following.

Anyone can juggle one ball. You can, so can I. We can also usually juggle two balls, especially if we have two good hands. Years ago, I had a desire to learn how to juggle, so I bought a set of red and black juggling balls and I can juggle three items, usually with ease. But if you add a fourth ball, forget about it. I haven’t mastered that skill just yet. That doesn’t mean it can’t be done. The Pearl Street Mall here in Boulder is filled with street performers who can easily juggle four, five, six, even ten items at a time with ease and grace. It’s just not my skill set at this moment. Our egos want to beat us up for what OTHERS can do that we seem unable to do. I’ve got a better idea.

Instead of looking at what you CAN’T juggle today, ask yourself this one question: What CAN I do today? So often we’re trying to juggle too many things at once, when our skill set is 3 balls at a time. So look at your to-do list and ask yourself: what are the three things that absolutely, positively MUST be done today? Start your day by doing those three things and only those three things. Once they’re done, pick another set of three things and so on… Before you know it, you’ll have juggled 10 or 20 items during the day. And you’ll have done it with ease and grace. (Oh.. and if you’re not someone who has already mastered the skill of juggling 3 items and you’d like to learn, start with 3 pieces of tissue…pulling them up underneath your hands instead of tossing them. You’ll also find a wonderful beginners juggling video at this link: http://bit.ly/lHsPiI.) And for the record..oranges make great juggling balls – and yield much more juice after they’ve been dropped a time or two!

Here’s to always knowing that you have enough time, energy, resources and wisdom to accomplish all that is yours to accomplish today!

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Should I file bankruptcy?

Monday, June 20th, 2011

The Real Housewives of New York City star Sonja Morgan got a rude awakening on-air when a co-star brought up her flailing finances, money mistakes and bankruptcy filing. Sonja’s heartbreak was clear – as was her statement that her finances are her business.

While her creditors might disagree, there is some big truth to what Sonja Morgan said. Her finances ARE her business. AND at the same time, they’re not. Sometimes the shame around a financial choice keeps us from looking at our financial relationship with clear eyes, or keeps us from being honest with others, or keeps us from taking the next right step toward having a healthy relationship with money. That’s when our finances SHOULD be someone else’s business. Usually, that’s when your finances become my business, especially if you’re looking to improve the relationship you have with money or trying to decide whether or not bankruptcy is the best choice for you.

Simply looking at our finances and our money beliefs with a clear eye can seem like a huge step to take. Considering bankruptcy is an even bigger step. So it’s not surprising if you and Sonja Morgan have the same response to whatever is going on in your life right now financially: it’s none of your business. That’s a belief that I tackle head on in Commitment 4 of the free Heal Your Relationship With Money e-book and workbook. Freeing yourself from that belief will help you move forward toward getting yourself out of the financial mess you may be finding yourself in right now.

And if you find yourself in a sticky financial situation where you’re completely stressed out, and you are struggling to figure a way out, someone may suggest bankruptcy as an option. The truth is, bankruptcy may or may not be your best choice. If you’re not sure, then get a copy of my free How to Know if It’s Time to File Bankruptcy? report. You can find both at www.paulalangguthryan.com/freestuff

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by Lantano Nabaala, Kenya Pastoralist Network

[Editor’s note: the following was a letter written to me by the founder of the Kenya Pastoralist Network, a organization consisting of members of pastoralist tribes who have dedicated themselves to creating sustainable peaceful solutions among warring tribe members. Lantano wrote to me to hold them in prayer. They had been “on the ground” for several weeks and had exhausted their funds and were unable to return to Nairobi until new funds arrived. They were tired and exhausted. But their problem and their delay in returning home turned out to be a solution to a bigger problem that was about to occur. Read on to see how releasing our attachments contributes to the greater good.]

One time, I was told by my father, “son, a problem in hand, is a solution of a problem on the way… so, always appreciate whatever is in your hands.”

Since we came to the Pastoralist region to mediate conflicts between tribes, we’ve not been able to go back to Nairobi, due to lack of funds. We are eating with them in the locality, we mingle with them. Over last weekend, a group of young men picked a quarrel with members of another tribe, normal rivals. Three guys were shot and injured, no fatalities. Immediately the other side’s youth converged and wanted to retaliate. But word went out to them that we were still around. I couldn’t believe that I was there, in a traditional small house, where before I went to sleep, I could count the stars in the sky from the traditional bed. I was called at 2.45 am, to intervene. Indeed, the avenging youth were very bitter. They seemed extremely ready to move with ferocious force to attack.

For some reason, I had boldness like I have never had in my whole life. I walked into the dark and pulled the gun away from the leader of the youth. Full of rage, these young men wanted nothing more than a massacre. I spoke with the clearest, most eloquent, moving words that I had never had before. For three and half hours, I spoke with them. I do not know where I got the energy and boldness in the dark. I walked in the dark, and by grace got straight to the leader. Where all that came from, I only attribute to God. I think I had some special assignment from above. Nobody was able to come near these youth before this. Everyone seemed to have given up; war was imminent. Within hours, there would have been death. It would take the security agencies from the government, at the earliest, 8 hours to be here.

By God’s plans, we were here! After much conversation, the young men, some of whom had elder brothers I used to go to war with their elder brothers, some of whom I had trained for war when they were young, these men finally accepted my plea and warnings. Instead of retaliation, they instead decided to reconcile, and all accepted a mode of punishment for the offending youth. Peace was re-accepted here!!

The whole of yesterday, we spent in traditional dancing and celebration of peace!!

Now I know that everything has a reason. Though my dad is still alive but very old, (97yrs), I appreciate most of the things he taught me!! Truly, a problem in hand IS a solution for a coming problem. Our not being able to go away from here must have been a solution to avert that war!!!

Thank you sooooooooooooooo much for I know these must all have come as a result of your prayers…. Thank you for the encouragements from you, and remember, just a thought of knowing that I have friends who support what we are doing gives me strength. It gives me inner energy, and INNER PEACE!

God bless you, greatly. Pass my love to Mike, the great warrior, and Elizabeth, the mother of the nation (that’s how we refer to men and women of peace here in the bush!!).

Lantano Nabaala, Kenya Pastoralist Network
To support Lantano’s work, tithes are gratefully accepted by:
The Village Gathering
1850 Folsom Street, Suite 708
Boulder, CO 80302
or via paypal at Tammie@artofabundance.com


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