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As you wishhhhhh!

Monday, January 31st, 2011

I love when I put out into the Universe what I want and it shows up so instantaneously that I would swear God has been waiting for my text message, simply to text back “As you wishhhhhhh!” and then it is done.

One day this summer, in the midst of a big project over Fourth of July weekend, I struggled with wanting to get out and go play, I had been invited to go dancing, yet was torn. I was uninterested in the long drive, and feeling uninspired about being surrounded by a sea of people I didn’t know, on the hopes of finding fun, brave souls who might be interested in dancing.

Then the epiphany hit – I simply didn’t know, or had forgotten, how to play. So I sent out a text, owning this, and putting on my to-do list a commitment to get out and play, even if only by myself, the next week.

A few minutes later, my friend Bill showed up, inviting me to explore a new hike he’d just learned about. So off we went to the National Atmospheric building, where we climbed a winding trail that took us on the other side of the flatirons. We watched rainbows double-dutch across the sky after we were misted with rain, soared with an eagle, caught my breath at a flat rock table mesa, inhaled the pines. We ran pell mell down the mountain, outracing the gloaming, dusk enveloping me like a soft fleece comforter I crushed wild lavender in my hands and infused myself with its sweet soothing balm, bounded with a big buck running alongside me for 20 yards and stood reverently less than 10 feet from the side of a wide-eye doe who stayed present to being with me for a few precious minutes.

Bliss filled every fiber of my being, every cell of my lungs and I awakened to the memory of how to play.

Spiritually fed by my work? Tithes and offerings are gratefully accepted and passed on to do additional good work in this world. You can easily tithe online by sending a tax-deductible tithe via www.paypal.com to my ministry at The Village Gathering. Just send it to tammie@artofabundance.com; or if you prefer to send your gift via mail:

Paula Langguth Ryan
The Village Gathering
1121 Annapolis Road, Suite 120
Odenton, MD 21113

Please remember our work when you’re doing your tax and estate planning! When making donations of appreciated stocks, property, and other large items, please list the recipient as The Village Gathering. Many thanks and richest blessings, as my colleague Rev. Catherine Ponder would say!

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What is dependable?

Monday, January 24th, 2011

Today, I am declaring my independence from false beliefs, from things I’ve valued that are value-less. Independence. Independent. Independable. Is that even a word? Merriam-Webster says no, but I think it should be. A Course in Miracles (Chapter 25, Section VII, paragraph 10) says: “what is dependable except God’s love? It is God’s will that you remember this, and so emerge from deepest mourning into perfect joy.” I would define “independable” as “the indwelling nature of God’s love.” One nation, independable… imagine it, if you will. One world, independable. Each of us so firmly aware of the Divine’s infinite love for us that we always feel loved and supported and empowered and lifted and held.

I am declaring my independence from old beliefs that have tried to create an illusion of dependability on outer things, the story of “how” things should be, the form they “should” take and so on. I am willing to see everything rightly today. I am willing to see the Truth.

My ego wants to project everything “out there” – to make the healing process about another, instead of myself. “If only “they” would get it, if only “they” would change, then my illusions would be safe. That’s what we’re really saying, isn’t it? From this place, it’s easy to understand what it means when A Course In Miracles says “in my defenselessness, my safety lies.” When I remember there is nothing to defend because there is nothing to lose, I can move forward with lovingkindness for myself; I can be still and quiet, forgiving myself for any misperception that I can lose, be attacked, be withheld from, be judged. All of it can disappear in that holy instant.

I wonder if this is the Truth my friend Robert, a devout Quaker, knew in that moment of attack when he was assaulted by two young Irishmen and left for dead. He never even raised his hands to cover his head. In his defenselessness his safety was contained. He was not afraid of losing his life, because he realized that nothing about his life, the true life within him, could be taken.

Several dear friends departed this world in the past year in abrupt ways. One was a longtime friend, in her early 60’s who disappeared in a boating accident. The second was an eight-year old girl who lived life more fully than anyone I’ve ever known. And Robert? Robert carries on, traveling through life in his wheelchair. This month marks the 11th anniversary of his assault. I will add “what would Robert do?” to the mantra I have created of “what would Daria do?, What would Andrea do?” They are a holy trinity for me: strong examples of living big, living wholly and living gracefully.

I am so blessed to have had friends like these in my life. And so I offer this prayer for myself and for you:

Holy Spirit, shine on me today that I may remember who I am –that my brother and I are one in you. Help me remember there is nothing that needs to be defended, because nothing other than love exists. Help me see the cry for love in others, instead of feeling attacked, so I can respond from the most loving place within me, in that moment. So I may demonstrate that I am worthy of the friends who have gone before me. So they may have eternal life, living on through our legacy of love.

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Spiritually fed by my work? Tithes and offerings are gratefully accepted and passed on to do additional good work in this world. You can easily tithe online by sending a tax-deductible tithe via www.paypal.com to my ministry at The Village Gathering. Just send it to tammie@artofabundance.com; or if you prefer to send your gift via mail:

Paula Langguth Ryan
The Village Gathering
1121 Annapolis Road, Suite 120
Odenton, MD 21113

Please remember our work when you’re doing your tax and estate planning! When making donations of appreciated stocks, property, and other large items, please list the recipient as The Village Gathering. Many thanks and richest blessings, as my colleague Rev. Catherine Ponder would say!

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Better bio captures new clients

Friday, January 21st, 2011

January 14, 2011
Consumer Bankruptcy Attorney Business Building Tip Sheet

By Paula Langguth Ryan; Consumer Bankruptcy marketing consultant
800/507-9244; www.paulalangguthryan.com/bankruptcy-tools/attorneys

You only get one chance to make a first impression on clients, and fortunately or unfortunately, most clients get their initial impression of you while surfing the internet. So your bio and picture have really got to give them a FULL picture of who you are. Not always easy in the two dimensional world of cyberspace. Videos help, because they allow your personality to shine through. But if you’re camera shy, or technologically challenged, there is an easy way to make a good first impression on potential clients. Brush up your bio. My colleague, Terri Porter of Spark Legal was kind enough to share her top 10 tips for better bios. Enjoy – Paula

10 Tips for Better Bios

By Terri Porter; Spark Legal Marketing and Development
303/656-8123 or email tporter@spark-legal.com

Your attorney biography can be a powerful marketing tool. Unfortunately, most aren’t. Why? Because most bios regurgitate the information that appears in your CV, which, naturally, is all about you, the attorney. Marketing, on the other hand, is all about the client and what you can do for him or her.

From a client perspective, your attorney bio should ideally answer three basic questions: (1) How can you help me? (2) How do I know you can help me? (3) Why should I hire you over someone with similar qualifications? The following tips will help you to transform your bio into an effective marketing tool that answers these questions:

1.      Make sure all your contact information appears at the beginning of the bio so that clients and prospects can readily see how to reach you.

2.      Take a close look at your photo (you DO have one, don’t you?). Does it show someone who is approachable and friendly or stiff and uncomfortable? Has it been updated recently so that it actually looks like you?

3       Seek and destroy the following verbs: represent, advise, counsel, work with, serve as and similar words that say little about what you can actually do for clients. For whatever reason (perhaps the ethics rules forbidding the guaranteeing of outcomes has something to do with it), attorneys are reticent to say, “Here’s what I can do for you.” Critical to understand is the notion that telling clients specifically the ways in which you can help them in no way guarantees that the help you provide will lead to the outcome they desire.

4       Count how many times your bio uses the word experience or variations thereof. Now delete them — every one. The fact that you have experience is significant, but the fact of your experience alone isn’t enough to convince prospective clients why they should hire you.

5.      Focus your text on what you can do for clients now. Don’t include a rundown of your past experience unless it affords some unique perspective you can offer clients now. Remember, your bio is not your resume.

6.      Your narrative is the most important part of your bio. Rewrite it with a focus on what you can do specifically to help clients:

BLAH:      _____ has extensive experience in counseling clients about X, Y and Z.

BETTER:  _______ helps her clients identify _________, manage _________, prevent __________, etc.

Remember: Less is more. Keep the narrative of your bio to between 250 and 300 words and focused on what you can do for clients.

7.      Include the names of your alma maters (minus the honors, law review position, etc. unless you’re an associate), which can provide a point of connection with prospective clients who are fellow alumni, friends or families of alums, etc.

8.      Limit your list of publications and presentations to those you’ve done in the last two or three years. Clients care about what you’re doing now and are not likely to peruse a lengthy list to see everything you’ve ever written or presented.

9.      Consider including a fun fact or facts about yourself in a separate section at the end. Although the law is serious business, the people who practice it are human, and that’s the piece that often resonates most strongly with clients — in other words, they want someone they can relate to.

10.    Finally, include a link at the bottom of your online bio that will give viewers who wish to know more about you the opportunity to see your full CV on your LinkedIn profile (you DO have one, don’t you?). Also include that URL in the contact information at the beginning of your paper bio.

By following these tips, you can dramatically transform your bio from a benign informational recitation into a dynamic marketing piece. To see “before” and “after” bio samples or to discuss how to remake your specific bio into an effective marketing tool, call 303.656.8123 or email tporter@spark-legal.com.

Terri Porter is a principal of Spark Legal Marketing & Development, which is based in Denver, Colorado, and offers broad-based marketing and development solutions to law firms throughout the United States. For more about her work, visit www.spark-legal.com.

PS If clients lack confidence about how to handle their finances or rebuild their credit after bankruptcy, point them to valuable resources like the Do’s and Don’ts of Bouncing Back From Bankruptcy booklet (or the full Bounce Back From Bankruptcy: A Step-By-Step Guide to Getting Back on Your Financial Feet). You can either direct clients to our website (www.paulalangguthryan.com), give them a flyer (download it at www.paulalangguthryan.com/bankruptcytools/attorneys/) about the book, or buy The Do’s and Don’ts of Bouncing Back or Bounce Back From Bankruptcy in bulk and give a copy to your clients after their creditor’s meeting. You can find details on the same bankruptcytools page above!

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Write your story well

Monday, January 17th, 2011

Sometimes, my ego wants to get caught in the web of trying to understand another’s outer motivation. It’s clear my ego is trying to lure me back into the story that something has been lost. Sometimes, knowledge is power. And sometimes knowledge is dangerous. Because it is the things we know or think we know that we use as the foundation for the stories we build. “What you don’t know can’t hurt you” has some truth. Because what we don’t know has no form for us to wrap our thoughts around. It’s what we THINK we know, the images our minds piece together, that are like shards of a smashed mirror. As we assemble them into our story’s supporting picture their razor sharp edges cut us, from every angle we admire.

But what happens if we choose not to write the story? What happens if we choose to only repeat the story of the truth: no one and nothing can disturb the calm peace of your mind. What will you write on your mind today? Choose a story that brings you peace and peace is what will fill your life.

Spiritually fed by my work? Tithes and offerings are gratefully accepted and passed on to do additional good work in this world. You can easily tithe online by sending a tax-deductible tithe via www.paypal.com to my ministry at The Village Gathering. Just send it to tammie@artofabundance.com; or if you prefer to send your gift via mail:

Paula Langguth Ryan
The Village Gathering
1121 Annapolis Road, Suite 120
Odenton, MD 21113

Please remember our work when you’re doing your tax and estate planning! When making donations of appreciated stocks, property, and other large items, please list the recipient as The Village Gathering. Many thanks and richest blessings, as my colleague Rev. Catherine Ponder would say!

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How do I afford to file bankruptcy?

Friday, January 14th, 2011

When You Can’t Afford to File Bankruptcy
By Paula Langguth Ryan

I got several more frustrated calls this week from people who believe bankruptcy is their best option. The problem is, they are too broke to even file bankruptcy, because they can’t afford the bankruptcy attorney fees. It may be a common refrain for you, too: “If I had the money to file bankruptcy, I wouldn’t need to file!”

When you realize that bankruptcy is your best choice for getting back on a firm financial footing, here are some tips for coming up with the cash to file a Chapter 7 or Chapter 13 bankruptcy:

1. Once you make the decision to file bankruptcy, you can stop making payments on debts that ultimately will be discharged in the bankruptcy, such as most credit card debts. If you’re currently paying on your credit cards, that alone is likely to free up enough cash in a few months to pay your bankruptcy attorney and filing fees costs. Stop paying your mortgage. If you want to keep your home, the mortgage company will work with your bankruptcy trustee to create a modified payment plan to help you get current. If you’re not paying on any credit cards or a mortgage, read on….

2. You can sell assets, particularly ones you might have to give up when you file bankruptcy – like an extra car (car pooling for a while isn’t the end of the world, I promise)! Collections, big screen tvs, “adult toys like snowmobiles, etc. – anything like that can generate some big extra cash.

3. A friend or relative may give you the money to file. Who might be willing to gift you money? Ask for cash for gifts – be upfront – tell people you’re saving up money to get out from under your debt and the best gift they can give you this year for the holidays or your birthday or other special occasion would be cash.

4. Ask your employer about any employee assistance programs for people in serious debt trouble. Many employees these days will pay all or a portion of your attorney fees and filing fees. Getting your mind off the stress of your financial situation and back focused on your work is a great incentive for an employee to help you. Especially if it will help them avoid the hassle of dealing with your creditors trying to attach or garnish your wages. It never hurts to ask, but if that’s too scary, here are a few more options.

5. Sell anything you can – but not if you have any intention of buying it back from the person you sell it to. That would be fraud. If you sell anything to a relative, make sure that it’s crystal clear that you’re selling it to them for their personal use, not for yours. Make sure they pay you full value and give them a bill of sale. Little things add up to big bucks – books, clothes, electronics, sports equipment, tools, kitchen gadgets, antiques, small appliances (and even large unnecessary ones), bikes, boats, exercise equipment, jewelry, collections, instruments. Thomas Jefferson sold his book collection three times to save his farm. Look at the things you think of as “essential” including artwork, entertainment units, furniture. Unless something is considered a tool of the trade for your work, chances are it wouldn’t be exempt anyway. Our emotional attachments often get in the way of us making sound financial decisions.

6. Pick up extra jobs – cleaning houses, yard work, babysitting anything that brings in extra money without costing you anything (but avoid the “work from home, buy our material, attend our seminars we’ll show you how to sell our products and services and make big commission kind of deals”). What friends or relatives have odd jobs they need done? Washing cars, shoveling snow, cleaning out gutters, garages, spare rooms, weeding or yard work, something else where you have some expertise? Stuffing envelopes, fulfilling orders, putting together equipment, helping set up someone’s quickbooks, doing data entry, research, car repairs, whatever. Think outside the box.

7. Eliminate every excess expense for 30 days. Shut off the cable, cancel subscriptions, turn off the internet, cancel memberships, don’t renew anything except the essential resources. No gifts, no movies (rented or at the theatre), no lottery tickets, no fast food, no extras at the grocery store, no prepared food, no snacks, sodas, coffees, bottled water, anything out. You will be amazed at how quickly in 30 days you can generate some significant cash just by eliminating these expenses. Brown bag lunches, anything and everything you can think of to save even a few cents. Make getting free from your debt the most important thing in your life – more important than cigarettes, beer, ice cream, haircuts, pedicures, private school, anything….

And here’s one final tip of what NOT to do….

Don’t borrow money from anyone or from your retirement accounts. Borrowed money is a loan, and if you don’t list this new debt on your bankruptcy forms, or you list it and say you’re going to reaffirm that debt and pay it over other creditor’s debts you wind up committing fraud or running the risk of having your bankruptcy dismissed. It’s not worth it.

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Paula Langguth Ryan is the author of Bounce Back From Bankruptcy: A Step-By-Step Guide to Getting Back on Your Financial Feet. Now in its 4th edition, this consumer bankruptcy recovery resource is highly recommended by consumer bankruptcy attorneys and trustees nationwide.

For more tips on how to know if it’s time to file bankruptcy, and what to do after bankruptcy to get started rebuilding your credit and your life, visit the Bankruptcy Tools at www.paulalangguthryan.com and check out the Life After Bankruptcy Monthly Member Support Group, our books, and our free How to Know If It’s Time to File and How to Travel Without Credit reports. If you’re feeling financially overwhelmed and considering bankruptcy you may also want to invest in a Considering Your Options consultation at http://www.paulalangguthryan.com/coaching/#considering

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